The headline screamed, "Rise in couples who split within five years" (Sunday Times 16th Feb 2014)."The first five years of marriage are proving a challenge for more Singapore couples - that is when partners stray, and a rising number of marriages break down."
Senior divorce lawyer, Tan Siew Kim was quoted saying that from the cases she saw, infidelity is the No.1 reason for divorce and it is happening early in the marriage.
It is a wake up call for all married couples. Infidelity is becoming a major cause of marriage break-ups.
What causes one to stray and break his or her commitment to love one another? There are many reasons. Rather, there are many excuses that the straying partner uses to justify his or her decision.
In the early years of our marriage, Michelle and I have had situations in which we were tempted with taking the easy way out when we had difficult situations. Calling it quits was an attractive, albeit, destructive option.
We are eternally grateful that we were taught that there is only one way to overcome infidelity and divorce - that is to build up and fuel intimacy between us. As simple as it seems, we had to take deliberate efforts to do just that.
Was it easy? Absolutely not. We took years to build up our intimacy level to where we are today. We both agree that we love each more than we did yesterday.
Was it worth the effort? Absolutely yes!
After years of fueling and building intimacy between us, we are closer than ever. Despite differences that still exist between us, we love and enjoy each other more than we did before. This level of intimacy has allowed us to overcome many quarrels and disagreements.
Marriage is about commitment, isn't it? Nobody said that marriage was going to smooth sailing. By marrying, we agreed to go into an adventure that will bring about all sorts of troubles and challenges, as much as fulfillment and joy. For this specific reason, the marrying couple is made to vow their sacred promise to one another that until death, and not divorce, do they part.
Our commitment to keep our vow is made easier if have deep intimacy in our relationship. I am not just referring to physical intimacy. We need a holistic approach which includes spiritual, emotional, physical, recreational and financial intimacy. We need to be intimate in all these aspects of our relationship.
Build your defense against divorce. Fuel your intimacy to overcome infidelity. Live and love as great lovers. It is worth the effort!
Steven
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3 comments:
Well written! May I also add that good communication between the couple is an important building block of intimacy. Often, we take for granted our spouse already know, or we are too tired, too lazy or too consumed in our own world to communicate with the person who is most important in our lives.
Well written! May I also add that good communication between the couple is an important building block of intimacy. Often, we take for granted our spouse already know, or we are too tired, too lazy or too consumed in our own world to communicate with the person who is most important in our lives.
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