Monday, May 7, 2012

Sexual Intimacy brings us closer to God

When I talk about intimacy at my marriage enrichment seminars, most if not all participants related it to the sexual aspects of their relationship. It is not uncommon for couples to think that way.

We are all created as sexual beings who have sexual desires and needs that have to be fulfilled. God intended Eve to be Adam's helpmate, to fulfill Adam's life because God said, "it is not good for man to be alone. I will make him a helper suitable for him."  (Gen 2:18 NIV).

Eve was a helper to Adam in all sense of the word. Eve made Adam complete. Adam exclaimed (Gen 2:23 NIV),
“This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man.”

Gen 2:24 proclaims, "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh."

Now that I have shared the two other more important ones are spiritual and emotional intimacies in my last two postings, I am ready to share with you intimately on sexual intimacy.

My wife and I share a totally satisfying sexual relationship with each other ever since we were married. We were both virgins until we were on our honeymoon. And since that first experience of "becoming one flesh", we have been enjoying each other sexually.

Michelle understands my need for sexual fulfillment and she goes out of her way to satisfy me. Similarly, I do my best to fulfill her sexual needs as much as she does for me.

We deliberately choose to fulfill each other's sexual needs for the following four reasons:

1.   We do this because we are in love.

Michelle and I still are very much in love with each other, even after 30 years of marriage. This love fuels our sexual desires for one another. And the sexual fulfillment from each other in turn fuels our love.

Our sexual intimacy is primarily resting on the foundation of our spiritual and emotional intimacies (read Extreme Intimacy and Emotional Intimacy).
2.   We do this to overcome Satan's temptations.

Paul taught that in the context of sexual relation, "Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder...Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. " (1 Cor 7:2-6 The Message)

More so now than in the times of Paul, Satan's perversion of the beautiful act of sex has gone on over drive today. The Internet has proliferated pornography, immorality and sex as an act of self-gratification.

The recent case of over 50 Singapore men who were caught for having paid sex with a young girl below 18 exposed not only the problems with the men, it also showed the state of the mind of young girls nowadays.

I enjoy Michelle sexually so much that there is no excitement for me in considering another sexual partner, ditto for her.

3.  We do this as a ministry to each other.

Yes, sex is a ministry within the marriage relationship. It is a ministry that can only be fulfilled by spouses. Paul said, "The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality — the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband." (1 Cor 7:2-6 The Message)

We are not animals and sexual intercourse is not just a mindless physical act. It is also not just for pro-creation. Sex is for our recreation.

Having sex allows Michelle and I to rest deeply in each other's embrace. When we are in one flesh, our spirit and emotion are fully connected and that brings tremendous peace, assurance and release from the stresses of life.

4.  We do this as an act of worship to God.

I find it so funny that some people think that God is not present when they are making love. If God is omnipresent, then He must be in the same room that we are in while making love. Besides, the Holy Spirit indwells in us. So He won't be taking leave when our clothes drop off and we start fore play!

God meant the sexual act between husbands and wives as a crowning glory to the tripartite God-husband-wife relationship in a marriage. Understanding this, Michelle and I thank Abba Father and worship Him while we are making love. It brings a special sense of closeness not just to the two of us, but also to Him. We thank Him for giving us each other and for giving us love for each other. This act of worship brings us to the next level of spousal worship.

Sex between spouses does bring them closer to one another and to God. Remember, it crowns with glory the spousal relationship that God has designed for man.
 Have great sex with your spouse. Love intimately!

So be the great lover God has intended you to be.

God bless.


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